Hello, so a few of you may know that I once knew a boy. He will remain nameless and faceless. I promised his dad who helped me very much that I would keep the peace. I keep my word but I will tell my story...... 

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As some of you know I was hanging around a guy who helped me very much. We met after I discontinued my sublease on August 9th ,2023. He was very kind to offer me somewhere to sleep, do my laundry, and allow me to eat a little somethin somethin. I recognized him from school and he was very sweet at first. 

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We got to know each other and it wasn't deniable that there was a spark between us. However, just to let you all know.....we did NOT have sex ALL. Later he said he never wanted to...which is a lie because I was on top of him when he said it. Looks can be deceiving but I am actually not that easy to get access to. He expressed he wanted to fuck me and I did have a sexual attraction to him. However, he did speak up and say that he did not want to get feelings involved. I respected that and I honestly did not have room in my life to have a relationship. We both respected consent. 

 

I did express that I was grateful several times and wanted to pay back the favor by paying for food since he was in a "tough" spot. So I didn't think much of it because he was allowing me to shower, sleep, cuddle with him, do laundry, and eat somethin from time to time. I didn't mind doing it. He was doing a lot for me and I wanted to give back. It is true that you must give in order to receive. After a few times, he did say that he would pay me back on August 18th, 2023 when he got paid. So I agreed because he didn't have to do it. I don't have much money as you all know. When I come into money I save it as much as I can. 

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I won't deny that he did pay for a meal with dessert afterwards on August 14th, 2023. I was very grateful because that was a tough day for him. Others really didn't know what he had been through but I had enough empathy to know that he was a cool guy with everything he went through. Everything he was comfortable to express to me. You do have to understand that he has been through ALOT. Of course with anyone who has been through what he has been through, I even ask you not to fully judge him. As of me. We are both young and always learning/growing. I did try to share advice on how to communicate better and he shared advice on how to handle my worries better.

 

I just didn't like how when he asked me a question....he would want me to answer it right away; even though I was. Sometimes I wanted to say something first before getting to that point (answering his question). However, when I would ask him a question......he wouldn't answer or would ignore me. 

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However, I learned that when people say something about themselves to you. BELIEVE THEM THE FIRST TIME. He started saying how he can manipulate things and started joking about a few other things. I didn't really think much of it because people like to joke. It wasn't until I started to see his actions, his choice of words, and the details that everything clicked. 

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Example #1: He would say he didn't have money but I would see him with things I didn't get him. Now, of course a friend or someone could have gotten it for him.....but then things got weird. He said he wanted me to buy something for him (it will remain nameless) and he had a fit because his tactics weren't working. he walked away and left me. I had to walk back not knowing where he was. His dad was home, he saw me, and let me wait for him inside.

 

He told me he had two cars and some money in the bank. However, he couldn't access that money. Knowing my situation, I understood him because I am in the same spot. He said he was saving it for his family to come into town and that he needed to save it for them. I was understanding. He did say he just spent a lot of money on a trip, so I didn't mind waiting for it. 

 

Another day he said he was leaving. He had to do something that day. I agreed because we needed sometime apart but something didn't feel right. I chilled under a tree enjoying nature when I saw him driving in his black car that passed his house. Not once did he mention that he could drive it. He said his license was suspended. So every time we walked, was it possible he could have just drove us? Or was he driving without a license? 

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Example #2: I asked if I could do yoga while watching a video on his tv. He pulled up his X Box and it said it was unable to connect. He said "it's not working" like I couldn't see that the reason it wasn't working was because he didn't log in. He played as if there was a different issue going on.Like I was gonna do something or go through his info? I was doing yoga and if he was so worried.....he could have just watched me or joined in yoga like he had an interest in doing it later on when getting to know each other.

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Example #3: I told him about my family situation: how they lied, manipulated, stole, and went through my things. He insisted that I go talk to them and resolve things. How do you solve things with a mother as a narrassist? Who has access to my money and is probably using it for her damn self? He said I should just deal with it, but I am not consciously going to be around people who treat me like shit. Who don't see my self-worth. Who don't see my potential.....

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Example #4: I would talk to him and he even said he's a manipulator. He said he can manipulate quite a few things in his favor. As he did me. Now, he told me he was mental unstable but I didn't believe him. I wanted to see his generosity. I wanted to think that just because you've been through a lot of things, it doesn't make you crazy because I am not. I wake up every morning in a positive energy, am very active, do the best I can, and check in with others. Yes, I am emotional. So sometimes I get sad or mad...but I do have that spark to keep going. Making big leaps in fact. I do express my emotions with words and sometimes out on my things but NEVER people. I never put my hands on another individual. I realize how that would damage my future, that would put something on my record, and honestly....it would be dumb to. You would just dig yourself in a deep ass hole that's hard to get out of.

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I can honestly say he did not hit or physically abuse me. He did verbally abused me though.

 

On the last day I departed, I realized all his lies. He said he had to visit a friend out of town so I couldn't be there but then he is on the phone scheduling an appointment with his doctor for that same day in the same area we were in. He also made a bank appointment and told me to wait outside. However, it was my bank too so I can go in if I wanted to... He told me to wait outside when there were chairs outside the area you have this appointment in.....in the lobby before you even enter the actual bank. He told me to wait outside when I walked my ass in and found out there are chairs I could sit in from the humidity. 

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Anyway......back to the point...lol

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On the day we departed, he said I should get my stuff and be on my way. He said we could walk together. Something was telling me that he would ditch me or something would happen. However, it was one of his dad's house so I had to respect that and go. We started to walk and he got angry. He started showing his anger. He started lying to me. How he is soooo happy and that he doesn't lie. I started saying things like people project their feelings or things onto other people with what they are going through within themselves. Do not quote me word by word but that was around the area in what I said. He said that I was wrong. He said that I called him "petty" when that word did not come out my mouth. I said people project what they are going through or that it may be a reflection of themselves. Which is very true. He started twisting my words.....He said get your stuff from the garage that I (me, Natalie lol) brought from the house. So we went back to the garage and he told me to leave in the pouring rain. I asked if I could call someone to pick me up since the calls I made dropped because his device was on low battery. When I asked him to charge it because I saw the red battery; he denied it was dying. Soooooo, it's raining and I cannot call anyone. We start arguing and he opens the door. His dad in the past has let me come in to wait for him so I thought he would be ok with me coming in to call someone. He plays the victim and screams "help," "help," "help!"...as if a small girl that has no record of violence is going to hurt you. So we are both in the doorway and he's shoving me out. In that moment I said in my mind, not today. I will not allow you to take away my power. To control me. To push me out the way. So I told him you're a manipulator and fought my way into shelter.

 

Successfully making my way back into a place where his dad could come back. We argued and a lot was said between both of us. He express that I was annoying and even ended on convo with "you insecure bitch" calling me out my name. Even though this boy had lied and manipulated me...not ONCE did I call him out his name. I respected that. I said he was a manipulator and that he lied to me. It was rough. He did say that he wasn't manipulating me BUT he was manipulating me to get me out his life. Which speaks louder than he realizes.

 

His dad came back and solved the issue. 

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I calmly expressed to him that no one is a victim, no one is a villain. We are not compatible. I did say that he has being dishonest and hasn't been the best to me to his dad. Of course I said more but I don't think I should share that with Wix.....

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I told him he owed me money in an indirect way (because I didn't want his dad to give me the money...I wanted him to) and the only reason I brought that up was because he said he would then LIED and said "no promises but I don't think I can give you that money like I said (probably on a later date). 

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In the end, his dad trusted me to let me borrow his phone, make phone calls so I had a safe place to go, and out of the greatness of his heart drive me to multiple cities so that I could go to a save place that night. He did not have to do that, but he did. Yes, this man probably didn't have his full trust in me but he had enough to willingly give me his phone and let me ride in his car. As his son called me "crazy." If I was "crazy" why would your dad let me ride in his car? Let me make phone calls on his phone? That was his choice. I can't make him do anything he doesn't want to. He's an adult. He did the sweet thing a man should do. Loaded his gas tank, took me with a sweet soul to possible final destinations, and we agreed that I would depart afterwards. I would no longer keep in contact with his son. We did not want legal troubles so I will let his son stay nameless/faceless.

 

I do not want any illegal troubles. I don't think his dad does either.

 

There was more that was experienced, and I may update later. I will try to do it as soon as I can.

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However, I wanted to share my story. Notice I shared things about me I am not proud of and things he may not be (idk bc I am not him). I am telling it how it is. 

 

Thank you for reading.

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